Rev, please I do know that the bible admonishes us to seek first the Kingdom of God and its righteousness and all other things shall be added onto us. My question is: Are those of us in relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend) going against this Rule or Command.
When Jesus said we should seek first the kingdom of God in His Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 6:33, He meant we should make God our priority in life by putting Him first. In other words, we are to seek the things of God as a priority over the things of the world. Primarily, it means we should never allow anything or anyone to take the place God occupies in our lives. These are some questions we should always ask ourselves “Will my decision or the choice I am about to make affect my relationship with God negatively? Will it make me a better Christian? Will it affect my salvation negatively? Will it draw me closer to God? Will it honour God and bring glory to Him?
Jesus was not saying we should neglect the reasonable and daily duties that help sustain our lives. He was neither telling us not to get married nor prohibiting us from starting a healthy Christian and God-honoring relationship with the opposite sex that would lead to a godly marriage. My relationship with my wife has drawn me closer to God and been very helpful and beneficial to me in many ways. So having a Christian girlfriend whom you’re sure you’ll marry in the near future, and with whom you’re serving and honouring the Lord is not against this command.
If you do not engage in fornication and other acts that grieve the Holy Spirit but you’re both active in church, serving God fervently and seeking His salvation, living in obedience to Him, and sharing the good news of the kingdom with others, you are actually seeking God’s kingdom first in your relationship and that is okay. Believers who have learned to truly put God first in whatever they do may rest assured that whatever they need will be given to them. Jesus promised that “…and all these things (the neccesities and even the luxuries of life) will be given to you as well.”